Own instead of perfect

When perfection has become the standard

Many people have learned to orient themselves on an inner scale that is hardly attainable. Not necessarily conscious, often more like a quiet voice in the background that says: It is not enough yet. There is more to be done, it should be better. At first glance, perfection seems like something positive, because it promises security, recognition and control. Anyone who does everything right does nothing wrong – at least in theory. In practice, however, it quickly becomes tight.

What Perfect Really Means

Perfect literally means finished or completed. There is nothing more to add. For machines this may make sense, but for humans it is never true. Human experience is not finished; It changes, contradicts and evolves. Those who try to be perfect work against something living: against movement, against development and against their own.

Perfection as Adaptation

Often perfection is not an inner desire, but an adaptation performance. An attempt to meet expectations, avoid criticism, or gain control over something insecure. For some, this has long been a protection and a way to stay where there was little reliability. This strategy deserves respect, but it can be questioned. Because what once helped can later become a burden.

If your own has no place

Perfection smooths and leaves little room for nuance, doubt or the unfinished. Your own, with its corners and edges, is often quietly pushed aside. Many feel at some point an inner distance to themselves. They work, they fulfill roles and they do many things right. And yet it doesn't feel consistent; not wrong, but foreign. This is often the moment when the question arises as to whether it is not a question of becoming more honest than even better.

Being your own instead of being right

Being one’s own does not mean finding everything good or no longer reflecting. It means taking yourself seriously again as a benchmark and feeling what fits and what does not. What is wearing and what is only endurable. Being one’s own can be contradictory, uncertain and unfinished. No one has to like it and prove nothing. This is often a major discharge.

Saying goodbye to the inner destiny

Breaking away from perfection is not a one-off decision, but a process. Again and again the old should and the desire to do it right. The difference lies in how you deal with it: whether you drift or stop, whether you correct yourself or listen. Your own is not found by optimizing it; It becomes audible when you stop passing it.

A quiet, viable floor

Many are not experiencing a major breakthrough at this point, but something quieter. More indulgence with yourself and less internal pressure. A feeling of floor that doesn’t have to be perfect to carry. Owning instead of perfect does not mean that everything will be easy, but it will be more real. And often this is exactly what was missing.

One conclusion, no end

Owning instead of perfect does not mean that everything will be easy, but it will be more honest. Perhaps this is not a major upheaval, but something quieter. More indulgence with yourself. Less internal pressure. A feeling of floor that doesn’t have to be perfect to carry. You don’t have to accomplish anything to be right. You may begin to correspond to yourself. And that can be a good start.